How Can We Become Swingers?
These days it is very easy, just scroll to the bottom of this page and fill in a few simple details in the "Join Us" box.
Log in and start browsing the profiles of the members that meet your requirements and then write to the ones that you are attracted to.**
Determine who you (if you are single) or you and your partner want to meet. If you are a couple sit down and discuss your fantasies, and your partners fantasies and work out what order you want to make them come true. Be prepared for a few surprises, as you may find that the fantasies you have talked about as pillow talk are just the start of a very interesting journey of sexual experimentation.
Make sure at all times that you are both feeling comfortable with what you are planning to do. From the start define the boundaries for each of you for playing with people you meet as a couple or for playing in a swingers club or party.
Go to you first meeting at a club or with someone you found on the site and have fun, making sure that everything you do is within the boundaries you agreed on. The only arguements at events that we have seen have been caused by one partner not sticking to the plan mid way through the meeting. This is always going to cause the meeting to end in an argument.
Remember, at anytime, you or the people or person you are playing with can say NO, even mid stroke while having sex!. At this point all activity must stops. Never ignore a person who says stop or NO while playing, physical contact after this point is rape, and reputable clubs and party hosts will ask you to leave, or if it is a serious assault will call the police.
After your first meeting, go home and play with each other, talk about the events of evening, discuss what you liked and disliked, things that could make it more fun, and what you dont want to do on future meetings.
How do you find someone to "Play" with?
This is the 21st Century, so the obvious answer is The Internet
As you are reading this page you obviously have access to the internet via a phone, tablet or computer. The Internet is the quickest way to make contact with swingers and to get detailsof swingers clubs and parties in your area.
Watch out for the swingers sites that are out to rip you off - these sites usually consist of just an access page to a database, and little if anything else, they are often "run" by attractive women (usually a porn merchant hiding behind a fake identity). Look for a site such as "Swingers in Tenerife" this site has loads of information for swingers, and millions of users in dozens of countries. We are also a genuine swinging couple who have been swinging in the UK, Spain,Netherlands, Italy, USA etc., for quite a few years, we also run swingers parties an swingers socials.
All swingers contact sites have databases of swinging members. Some databases are very basic and hold very little in the way of information about the advertisers. Other have more complex systems like ours, based on profiles, where you can create your own profile, and then search for people whose profiles match your requirements.
Once you have identified some potential playmates, write them a message, remember that you are not the only person looking for fun, and possibly not the only person trying to contact the people you have found. Check their profile to make sure that your details match what they are looking for, if you donot match their listed requirements they are probably not interested in meeting you. Your profile response needs to sell you to the other players without being arrogant, tell them a bit about you both, and what you want to try.
You may get lucky right away and get a perfect response, on the other hand you may not, but don't give up, with millions of people in the swinging scene, you will find someone who matches your fantasies.
Swingers Clubs and Parties
There are thousands of swingers clubs around the world, including 2 here on Tenerife and several more on the other Canry Islands.
Swingers clubs make an ideal venue for meeting other swingers. Most clubs have a bar and relaxation area where you can meet and chat with other swingers in safety, and where, should you find someone compatible, you have the facilities to go and play.
If you are travelling away from the Canary Islands check our partner site www.clubsandparties.com for details of over 1700 swingers clubs around the world.
Before visiting a swingers club check their website or call them before you go to make sure that the day you intend to visit they cater for the kind of people you could want to meet.
Swingers clubs often have nights geared to meet the needs of different groups within the swinging scene:
- Couples Only nights - these nights cater for couples who only want to meet other couples. Single males are always barred from couples only events, though single ladies are usually welcome.
- couples and singlesor Greedy Girl / gang bang nights - catering for ladies who likes lots of male attention. The ratio of men to women is from 2 to 1, at a couples and singles night up to asmany as 10 to 1at a gang bang event. Thought this can sound daunting, ladies at these are treated with respect, and they only play with as many, or as few, of the men as they want to.
- Bi nights - these are for couples and singles where everyone is bi-sexual.
- Fetish nights - these nights involve dressing up, whips and chains, oil and leather and lace.
- Gay nights - usually geared towards gay men, though some cater for gay females as well.
** You can communicate with VIP (paying members when you are a free member, but you cannot write to other free members) If you decide to become a VIP member you will be able to communicate with everyone.